Within the last 2 months, 2 of my dear friends each lost one of their parents. I flew down to my hometown to be with my oldest friend. Her dad died and well, I’ve known this family since I was 4. Let’s just say, we’re old friends and our lives have blended together. I love that family dearly. Their family is big. And as we’ve gotten older, we’ve all multiplied. 🙂 But we’ve stayed great friends. So being with her while she’s going through the process was like me losing my father all over again. Sad, but we knew it was coming, so we weren’t surprised but it still hurt. Know what I mean?
And another close, personal friend lost her mother just a couple days ago. The process of grieving is so different with each person. I’ve reached out to my close friend but she is taking a break from talking to people. My heart goes out to her so I send her funny text messages just letting her know I love her and am here if she needs me.
The healing process is long and each person grieves in their own personal way. How do I help these 2 women I love? My sister and I have a standing joke with my oldest friend. She gets pudding snack packs and whip cream. Whenever she feels sad, she eats. Not funny but we’re twisted so we laugh about that. And laughter helps her through her process.
My other girlfriend is not only going through the mourning process both her and her husband have health issues and have to deal with that as well. I pray for her a lot. Doesn’t seem like enough. I feel so powerless to help her. Humor seems to me to be my way of coping with hard life issues. How do you deal with your shit? You know, the hard stuff in life. Just put your head down and barrel through? Ignore it? Stop and throw your Starbucks cup on the ground and stomp on it? Like a dozen times. I think I may just buy her a sparkly tiara!
Until next time,